Jacob and Esau: Part II

Jacob and Esau have lived out much of their lives at a distance. At the end of this story they finally rendezvous. Although it initially appears as though they have made peace, there are some lingering questions. Subsequent generations of Jewish and Christian interpreters speak of Esau and Jacob as eternal rivals. Do you think that they are reconciliation?

Genesis 33

1Now Jacob looked up and saw Esau coming, and four hundred men with him. So he divided the children among Leah and Rachel and the two maids. 2He put the maids with their children in front, then Leah with her children, and Rachel and Joseph last of all. 3He himself went on ahead of them, bowing himself to the ground seven times, until he came near his brother.
4But Esau ran to meet him, and embraced him, and fell on his neck and kissed him, and they wept. 5When Esau looked up and saw the women and children, he said, "Who are these with you?" Jacob said, "The children whom God has graciously given your servant." 6Then the maids drew near, they and their children, and bowed down; 7Leah likewise and her children drew near and bowed down; and finally Joseph and Rachel drew near, and they bowed down. 8Esau said, "What do you mean by all this company that I met?" Jacob answered, "To find favor with my lord." 9But Esau said, "I have enough, my brother; keep what you have for yourself." 10Jacob said, "No, please; if I find favor with you, then accept my present from my hand; for truly to see your face is like seeing the face of God--since you have received me with such favor. 11Please accept my gift that is brought to you, because God has dealt graciously with me, and because I have everything I want." So he urged him, and he took it.
12Then Esau said, "Let us journey on our way, and I will go alongside you." 13But Jacob said to him, "My lord knows that the children are frail and that the flocks and herds, which are nursing, are a care to me; and if they are overdriven for one day, all the flocks will die. 14Let my lord pass on ahead of his servant, and I will lead on slowly, according to the pace of the cattle that are before me and according to the pace of the children, until I come to my lord in Seir."
15So Esau said, "Let me leave with you some of the people who are with me." But he said, "Why should my lord be so kind to me?" 16So Esau returned that day on his way to Seir. 17But Jacob journeyed to Succoth, and build himself a house, and made booths for his cattle; therefore the place is called Succoth.
18Jacob came safely to the city of Shechem, which is in the land of Canaan, on his way from Paddan-aram; and he camped before the city. 19And from the sons of Hamor, Shechem's father, he bought for one hundred pieces of money the plot of land on which he had pitched his tent. 20There he erected an altar and called it El-Elohe-Israel.

1) Do you think that Jacob and Esau forgave each other?

2) What do you think happened to make forgiveness possible? What do you think are the steps that both the offender and the offended must take to make forgiveness possible?

3) Does forgiveness entail forgetting?

4) Why do you think Jacob goes and lives at a distance from Esau?

5) Are there times when forgiveness is an impossibility…when forgiveness may even amount to "cheap grace"… when forgiveness undermines justice? Think about his challenge in terms of your own experience.